Philautia Loving.....

Delicious Soul Food Self-Love

You and only you, the blueprint of each and every one of us has never been duplicated, and possibly in our human state, would never be repeated. I met myself and I discovered all that I am and I am not in my twenties, by age thirty I was amazed by who I am. Through faith and love the mysteries were semi clear, I began to love my pieces, my cracks and acknowledge my shadows. Self love and self compassion were the ultimate keys to my discovery.

Philautia is self love in its healthiest form, it gifts us with a deep understanding that once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin, will you be able to provide love to others. As Aristotle said, "All friendly feelings for others are an extension of man's feelings for himself". Can you imagine, our level of friendliness expressed towards others is an exhibit of how we feel about ourselves. WOW!!!!

This love form is not the unhealthy vanity and self obsession that is focused on personal fame, gain and fortune, as is the case with narcissism. Rather, it is the love that is the wind beneath our wings to freedom. Freedom from our flaws and short comings, it is the dawn of self compassion, and acceptance of our imperfect human state and struggles.

Self Love Self Compassion

We cannot share what we do not have. If we do not love ourselves we cannot allow anyone else to love and even reciprocate that love. The only way to be truly happy is to find unconditional love for ourselves. Only when we are safe and comforted within ourselves will we be truly ready to share and care for others.