Crushing on The One.....

The mystical irresistible desire, need or longing for the one. Do you feel it? Have you felt it? Happily married, comfortably single, eagerly waiting, vigorously dating…. insistently our subconscious asks, “Is she/he the one? Where is my One?”

That feeling that lingers and is always present in every empty moment, every argument, every fight, every mismatched or misfit situation, boxing us back into the illusion of unwrapping that big bright shiny bow to find the One. 

Being a child of the eighties, our ideas of love and romance were peaked by Disney’s characters; Cinderella, Snow White, Belle, Ariel and Pocahontas, I remember vividly, these princesses all had crushes of intense infatuation that lead to love and their prince being “the One” with a happily ever after ending. 

They all were scripted to find their One, but in reality do we expect the same? Do we want the same? Do we need the same? I am not sure how you feel or felt but I found a magical place in the world and I lived there, actually, spent half of my life there, fully and wholeheartedly wanting, waiting and expecting my One, all my hopes and desires of a partner were shaped in the One. Anyone who knows me, knows I am, and always have been obsessively infatuated with the word and meaning of LOVE. I am hopelessly a romantic and despite my many crushes, heartbreaks and breakups, I am still a deep lover and believer of LOVE. I hoped and believed in “the One” ,until my path was charted to a journey with a fulfilling and enlightening discovery of my true self and the full potential of who I am, empowered with a well of WILL and LOVE that was within me. I packed up all my fairy tale dreams and left that magical place and migrated into a renewed, Spiritual place.

As I began to unwrap the gift of self from our Creator, I helplessly submitted to the timeless discovery of His supernatural power in me and around me. 

The journey of self-discovery provides us a mirror with a reflection of what we are, the good, the bad, the ugly. Equipped with the wings of the Spirit we get the bull's eye view, a revelation not only of what we are but who we are and all that we were created to be.

Do you know who you are? Do you know how immensely beautiful you are? Do you know your major weakness and flaws? Have you discovered your broken pieces?

Most times we are so focused on “the One” that we lose sight of our first love, love of self. After all, Jesus did command us to love our neighbours as we love ourselves. Are we too busy crushing for “the One” that we neglect the gift of self? The same self that is on the other side of the barter when we meet the ONE. Shouldn't we be focusing on preparing on being “the ONE” in order to receive the ONE?

Can our fairy tale be scripted just like all the Disney princesses to have the One? Are we willing to allow our love story to be scripted, or are we willing to re-script, edit or revise our love stories within our relationships and marriages with forgiveness, trust, and faithfulness to our vows and promises to our partners, the One?