Do we understand how to give and receive love?

Are you understanding me?  source: www.themoveny.com

Welcome to the human race where nothing is wrong with disagreements. The real issue is how we  fight when we disagree is it clean and respectful? This is huge topic but for a whole different post.  We all have our own persona, feelings and desires and most times we clash with those of our spouse or partner. It is important  that we learn to listen to each other in order to understand the other person's thoughts, feelings and desires. Once we understand each other then both partners/spouse can look for a solution. 

Source: www.gotman.com

In love we must compromise and exercise patience. Compromise is not a negative word. Dictionary.com defines compromise to be "an agreement or settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions". Isn't that healthy decision making?

Gary Chapman built a theory around the love languages of love. In his book "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" he outlines five ways to express and experience love (Love Languages). These are gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion) and physical touch. 

Source: Pinterest 

There has been a lack of research to test the validity of Chapman's model but for most of us who have ever experienced unrequited love can related to this theory.  

Please click on the video below for a deeper explanation on the five love language.