Trusting in love again.......

Trust  love one more time Source: Pinterest

In life, trust is a natural subconscious expectation of all relationships from inception. We meet strangers, we start business relationships, and partnerships, all on based on faith and trust that the person on the other side will maintain the commitment of fulfilling the objective of their side of the relationship/partnership or contract.

With dating and love we get intoxicated with infatuation and before you know it we are deep in a commitment without a clear vision of expectations, needs, desires or even deal breakers. Dating in the new age is not what our grandparents taught us and definitely not what our fairy tales made us to believe.

Infatuation or love? Source: www.healthguidance.com 

Unfaithfulness, infidelity, cheating................... What exactly do these mean?

Hooking up, a love story, sex, paid or not, a secret online chat room, watching porn, staying secretly active on dating apps, intimate bonds with the opposite sex?????

Esther Perel has traveled the globe for at least ten years, working extensively with people who have been affected by infidelity.

She wrote:

There is no universally agreed-upon definition of what even constitutes an infidelity. However the one I use includes three elements:

1. A secretive relationship, which is the core structure of an affair
2. An emotional connection to one degree or another
3. A sexual alchemy, alchemy being the key word because the erotic frisson is such that the kiss that you only imagine giving, can be as powerful and as enchanting as hours of actual lovemaking. As Marcel Proust said, it’s our imagination that is responsible for love, not the other person.

Once trust is broken do you believe it can be regained?

Take a look at Esther's talk below and write a comment below.